We can never overestimate the power and importance of friendship. Friends give help in times of need, advice in times of trouble, consolation in times of grief, and praises in times of achievements. Having a true friend can be good therapy!
Good friendships are part of our overall happiness. Friendships can be genuine and irreplaceable bonds. Researchers had identified three common themes that bond friendships:
- Emotional Support – express affection and support, self-disclosure
- Communal Nature of Friendship – participate or support each other in mutually shared activities
- Sociability and Compatibility – friends are sources of fun and recreation
Friendships must be mutually productive and not destructive to either person, lest there be friction and conflicts. Once destructiveness enters into the relationship, the bonds are broken and it’s no longer considered friendship.
However, individuals can engage in remedies to solidify the broken relationship, if it is truly desirable.
- Reproach – the offended party acknowledges the problem and ask the offender for an explanation.
- Apologize – the offender take responsibility and offer concession, an apology
- Acknowledgement – the offended party accepts the remedy and friendship may be weakened, but it can continue.
The fact is that friends are indispensable in this life. Friends serve a variety of needs. As your needs change, the qualities you look for in friendships also change. The older a person gets the more valued their friendship becomes.
There’s nothing like a friend that you can confide in and tell your troubles to and share your life with. The value of friends is one of the most important things in a person’s life. Their worth is not diminished by time, not devalued by inflation, not worn out by use, but like a fine wine, they improve with time. So are friends to those who have them, they are like medicine to the soul or as Proverbs 27:9 (NIV) says “The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume and incense.”
Trust of a Close Friend
“He who covers and forgives an offense seeks love, But he who repeats or gossips about a matter separates intimate friends”. Proverbs 17:9 (AMP).
To cover an offense or something means not to reveal it to others. A friend should keep a friend’s secrets to himself. This is a strong quality of a trustworthy friend. A friend who repeats the matter (or gossips) to someone else can separate even close friends. If you repeat something that a friend entrusted you with, it could likely dissolve the friendship. Confidence and trust is weakened in the relationship.
Friends Tell you the Truth
“Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses”. Provers 27:5-6 (NIV)
A good true friend will tell you the truth, even if it hurts. The truth can be a hard pill to swallow. If you are doing something wrong or you are going down the wrong path, it is better to hear it from a friend who cares about you. The “so-called friends” that sugar-coat the truth, trying to spare your feelings, are not being honest with you or themselves.
Choose your Friends Carefully
“Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm”. Proverbs 13:20 (NIV)
A person becomes more like those that they associate with. This is why it is so critically important to choose friends wisely. Be careful about the people you hang around with. The word of God also warns us to not associate ourselves with hot-tempered people.
“Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul”. Proverbs 22:24-25
Bad company corrupts good morals. You not only become ensnared with them, but you could pick up their bad habits. Because we have a tendency to be like our friends, we must choose friends carefully.
Maintaining Godly Friendships
Godly friendships are important. It is important to develop friendships that lasts. Connect with people in your circle that reverence and have a high respect for God because they make excellent friends….even if it’s just one person. Godly friendships are cherished relationships.
“To flatter friends is to lay a trap for their feet”. Proverbs 29:5 (NLT)
Some friendships help us to honor God, while others friendships place us in situations that causes pain, embarrassment and stress. We must ensure that our friendships are pleasing to God.
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