“BE wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” Colossians 4:5-6 (NIV)
When people see you coming, do they run in the opposite direction? Are people happy when they see you? Is it all about you? Are you always critical of others, but brag about yourself all the time? Do you have an annoying self-centered behavior? Are you a trifling complainer? Unapologetic? Manipulative? Obnoxious? Truth is, no one likes being around individuals with these personality traits.
Should we even care about what other people think about us? Well, not really. Don’t stress over it. However, everyone wants to be liked and accepted. A likable person who has a pleasant personality carries a high credibility rating. People tend to be happier and more successful in life when their likability status is highly ranked. Their personalities thrive off of likeable behaviors, good manners, habits, and tasteful traits.
Let’s get serious here.…likable people get better services, better opportunities and jobs, good promotions; get appreciated more, and they make more money. You know it’s true! They are full of charisma, realistic and true to themselves. They are confident in what they believe in, but they also own up to their mistakes. They know how to network and socially connect with people and create a pleasant atmosphere to those around them.
Unfortunately, we also know some crabby, rude, irritating, “know-it-all” and obnoxious people who are just as successful as the individual with likeable behaviors. However, trying to build and maintain a personal or professional relationship around these people can be somewhat overbearing, difficult and stressful. These people have problems connecting socially so they use these undesirable behaviors to gain attention.
“Those of us who are strong and able in the faith need to step in and lend a hand to those who falter, and not just do what is most convenient for us. Strength is for service, not status. Each one of us needs to look after the good of the people around us, asking ourselves, “How can I help?” That’s exactly what Jesus did. He didn’t make it easy for himself by avoiding people’s troubles, but waded right in and helped out.” Romans 15:1-3 (MSG)
Choose to be optimistic (happy). Live a life of satisfaction. Learn how to turn a bad situation into something good. Overcome skepticism by having confidence in yourself. Let go of the “naysayers” and “backstabbers” that say they like you, but don’t. Most successful people are optimistic. Be confident, but keep ego in check.
Positive people are happy because they know how to manage stress and embrace negative moments. They avoid complainers. Hanging around complainers and negative people will keep you depressed. Stop criticizing and condemning people. If they cast a negative shadow, walk away. Life is too short to live in the shadows of negativity all the time. Remember when you point one finger at someone, there are three more pointing back at you.
BE Happy. Smile a little and laugh a lot.
It’s OK to have fun! Don’t be so serious! Relax and enjoy yourself. Even if you’re having a “not-so-good” day, smile anyhow. It sounds crazy, but go ahead and laugh at your troubles. Your troubles may not go away immediately, but you will feel better. And the people around you will feel better too. Adapt a pleasing personality. A smile shows that you care. Laughter is the best stress-reduce medicine. It’s better for your health and proves to provide more energy and it also boosts your immune system.
People who are miserable live unhappy lives and are lonely, negative and pessimistic. Misery loves company. Unhappy people like other people to be unhappy too.
BE mindful – listen to people
Learning to listen to people takes a special skill. Listen to other people’s opinions and show respect. Listening is an important communication component that will develop and maintain relationships of any kind. Listening gives you the ability to relate to other people and gain social acceptance and popularity because people like those who are attentive. Be genuinely interested in people. Express support and understanding. Take steps to improve the relationships with those around you.
BE a winner! Create win-win situations
Behave and treat people with respect. Be helpful. Getting along with people and helping others is the true path for happiness and success. Help others to succeed. Generate positive conversations to motivate and inspire people. Give genuine compliments. Say “thank you” and be courteous. Confident people always inspire others and make things happen.
Bottom line, everyone is not going to like you. So stop trying to be like everybody else and start living for yourself. Just be you! You really can’t force people to like you, so just be happy and satisfied with yourself. There is more to life than trying to be liked by everyone. God made you and can’t nobody change you but you. You are unique. You shouldn’t have to change your personality to make people like you. You don’t have to live up to other people’s expectations.
Recognize the good in you. Do things that make you happy and others will see your inner beauty and BEgin to warm up and enjoy you, just the way you are.
“Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. Put into practice what you learned from me, what you heard and saw and realized. Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies.” Philippians 4:8-9 (MSG)
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